Worst year of my life, by far.

[Zaino]

I do construction, a story like this would get you a job, but I hear you on the disaster front. I left Florida as an economic refugee with barely enough money to get the fuck out of that shit crap state.

I would be frank when you get an interview, like BTW some ass clown offed himself at a party of mine when I was sleeping. Make it sound like you have a bunch of intellectual nerd friends but somehow this shit bag found his way in.

 

[flx89]

really sucks. not many things we can say to make you feel better. So drugs can destroy lives even if you don't use them. sorry about that. Try to find a job somewhere else

 

[CodSpot]

I agree with everyone except the name changing.

I do plan on getting out of here. I will be focusing more online than I was offline, even though I have a COUPLE clients left that believe in me, but they obviously don't pay the bills.

I WILL get this shit sorted, and hopefully have a nice story to go along with it.
"From riches to rags, back to riches."

I really do appreciate the motivation guys. I've always driven myself without anyones help until now, never felt so alone. You guys are a real inspiration to suck it up and to quit being a pussy about the situation.

If anyone is hiring or holding any valuable seminars, shoot me an email at pythonimp@gmail.com (my pm's don't work here anymore)

Much love.

 

[guerilla]

When we first met up on AIM, you represented yourself very different from how you rep yourself in this thread.

I still don't know if you're a shared account, or one guy with a complex story, or a guy who makes up a lot of drama.

You're really bright, and I'd love to work with more bright people, but it sounds to me like you're having trouble making good decisions, and unfortunately are one of those guys who pays full price in consequences.

Here is an idea. Sell your house. Then get some low wage jobs to pay for you to start your own business. Do your own thing. There are thousands of people doing business online and no one does a personal check on them.

Or you can keep holding on to things you can't afford, feeling like a bitch because shit went sideways and feeling isolated because other people don't want to work with you.

Some advice, stop making excuses for yourself and indulging yourself in a victim narrative. Nothing is going to get better until YOU make it better.

And that might take awhile, so put on your big boy pants and suck it up. Be a man.

TL;DR

Stop telling a narrative of failure. Write a narrative of success.

 

[jryan21]

I gotta ask this again because it doesn't make sense.

Just guessing here, but the court may have agreed to expunge it once he completes probation, etc., and during the probation, the judgment gets set aside so that it hasn't actually been entered into the record. But if he violates probation, they drop the hammer.

It all seems it is blowing over, I land another great job and the lead marketing director starting at 87k per year. I was only 2 weeks into the job (yesterday) until the CFO of this company found our names and Articles related to that charge on google. They immediately fired me without giving me the benefit of the doubt to explain the situation, as the articles made us appear as crack dealers.

Again just guessing but worth checking out with someone who really knows- unless you had something in a contract or misrepresented yourself during the hiring process, it's illegal as hell for them to do that.

 

[mattfca]

four residents of the house were charged with allowing an open house party wherein at least 16 people under the age of 21 were known to be present and allowed to consume alcoholic beverages and/or narcotics by those in control of the residence.

Police reminded all adults of their legal responsibility to limit alcohol consumption to those over the age of 21 in areas under their control, including private residences. They should also be aware of the potential for a variety of issues related to health concerns and impaired driving once individuals leave the premises, as well as the possibility of civil liability.

underage drinking

 

[freezeprogram]

When we first met up on AIM, you represented yourself very different from how you rep yourself in this thread.

I still don't know if you're a shared account, or one guy with a complex story, or a guy who makes up a lot of drama.

You're really bright, and I'd love to work with more bright people, but it sounds to me like you're having trouble making good decisions, and unfortunately are one of those guys who pays full price in consequences.

Here is an idea. Sell your house. Then get some low wage jobs to pay for you to start your own business. Do your own thing. There are thousands of people doing business online and no one does a personal check on them.

Or you can keep holding on to things you can't afford, feeling like a bitch because shit went sideways and feeling isolated because other people don't want to work with you.

Some advice, stop making excuses for yourself and indulging yourself in a victim narrative. Nothing is going to get better until YOU make it better.

And that might take awhile, so put on your big boy pants and suck it up. Be a man.

TL;DR

Stop telling a narrative of failure. Write a narrative of success.

This motherfucker knows what he's talking about. Google the blog that he hasn't updated in years; you can still make money off of that bitch.

The worst thing about depression is that it fucks with your ability to focus. You have to snap yourself out of it each time you feel it coming on. Force yourself to do work, even if its just to keep yourself in the habit of working.

The sadness isn't real, its a time sink. Shit's fucked up bro, keep moving.

Boat drinks, motherfucker. That's what this shit is all about.

 

[88crxsi]

I agree with everyone except the name changing.

I do plan on getting out of here. I will be focusing more online than I was offline, even though I have a COUPLE clients left that believe in me, but they obviously don't pay the bills.

I WILL get this shit sorted, and hopefully have a nice story to go along with it.
"From riches to rags, back to riches."

I really do appreciate the motivation guys. I've always driven myself without anyones help until now, never felt so alone. You guys are a real inspiration to suck it up and to quit being a pussy about the situation.

If anyone is hiring or holding any valuable seminars, shoot me an email at pythonimp@gmail.com (my pm's don't work here anymore)

Much love.

I don't usually post on forums much as I stay busy, but I've been in a shitty situation like yourself.

When I was 19 I got hit by a drunk driver who was under the age of 18. Had over $60k worth of debt because the chick had bare minimum insurance. I had a decent job and tried paying it back, but got behind and I'm 25 now and just getting out under all of this mess.

I had nice stuff prior to this. I lost everything. However I didn't sit back like a pussy and do nothing about it. I taught myself internet marketing, offline marketing and now I'm back on top again.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and take your skills online. Create a service on forums doing seo, content writing, building websites, or whatever it takes.

As others have said sell all the crap you don't need and start working on getting your life and financial situation back together.


No one can change your circumstances except yourself. If your clients and everyone else ditched you then F them. You're better off without them.

So man up and do whatever the fuck it takes to get back to the top. If you can do it for offline clients you can do it online as well.

 

[elcamino]

I have a network of hundreds of high PR sites that I use for various SEO services, and I would like to donate some REP Management services to help you bury this crap.

Send me a PM with some of the negative terms and what type of consulting you do and I will put a huge positive spin out there for you.

 

[Berto]

The consistent thing I'm seeing is that you are allowing others to be in control of your life's path. From letting people party at your house while you're in bed (microcosm) to letting someone fire you (bigger picture) to your reputation management on Google (we got threads on this!).

Do whatever it takes to be in TOTAL control of your life and you'll see how your attitude changes. Be unfirable.

It's all solvable. ncmedia's idea is absolutely great, but I'd probably fight it more via rep management (or simply not caring by starting to run your own show) before taking that route.

Guerilla - from the sounds of his post, I think this post was OP's final "excrement" of failure. Basically, letting it out, admitting rock bottom, and it's done and upward from here. That's how I interpreted this post, and I think most others did too due to lack of flaming.

 

[-joe-]

underage drinking

Yeah, this is what I was saying on pg1. You've outed it now, so I might as well say it plainly. I think that a major part of the reason why employers aren't liking you too much is because of the responsibility thing. I mean, a pretty high proportion of the party weren't legal to drink, so employers may feel like they can't trust you. Reading a few articles, I don't think the papers were really portraying you quite as badly as you say, and there were way too many people for it to be some smack house - methadone's hardly a party drug, it was a matter of time before he ODed.

That said - you just need to be honest to employers about what happened, and I wish you the best of luck with that, as well as the rep management.

 

[avatar33]

I have a network of hundreds of high PR sites that I use for various SEO services, and I would like to donate some REP Management services to help you bury this crap.

Send me a PM with some of the negative terms and what type of consulting you do and I will put a huge positive spin out there for you.

Santa is early this year! And he's Latino!

 

[Bombastic]

Setting up your life so that you are dependent on nobody aside from yourself and accountable to nobody aside from yourself, is the most freeing thing you can ever do. Unless you want to serve other people and your community more than yourself.

I voluntarily gave up a K-12 teaching career because I was not willing to serve others more than I was willing to serve myself. I wanted to party and fuck girls and not give a fuck, and that was my choice. I knew that I could not live like that and be a teacher, because I was accountable to my whole community. So I quit, moved far away to a big city, got a job that involved far less accountability, and eventually got into IM so I could be completely free to live how I want.

If I were you I would sell my stuff, move somewhere with more anonymity, and work a job to bankroll my IM stuff until I was independent. If you`re stuck where you are because of the legal situation, then I would still follow the same plan without moving.

 

[CPW-Carl]

underage drinking

@mattfca: I gotta say, you are a fucking cunt for outing the articles.

@ncmedia: some great advice, I really hope OP takes you up on it.

guerilla's post made me question the whole thread so I'm going to be brief, but I already wanted to say to CodSpot that it sounds like a shit situation, a move sounds mandatory, check out some threads here on WF about living in cheap places such as South East Asia (or any third world country close to you really), scrape together the airfare and get the fuck out of town and build your own online empire where you and only you is in control.

 

[leelemons]

Such a shame. Did he even get to play a single game for the Crimson Tide? I knew he had a shot at being a starting lineman. He may not of been good enough to go pro but still dieing around 20 or so when you had your whole life ahead of you.

Somehow I think him being at least somewhat known is what screwed the OP. If it is him random homeless bum who died from an OD then the media and police probably wouldn't have given a dam. Kind of like how Michael Jackson's doctor is being prosecuted for murder because of how famous MJ was but on a much lesser scale.

 

[freezeprogram]

@mattfca: I gotta say, you are a fucking cunt for outing the articles.

@ncmedia: some great advice, I really hope OP takes you up on it.

guerilla's post made me question the whole thread so I'm going to be brief, but I already wanted to say to CodSpot that it sounds like a shit situation, a move sounds mandatory, check out some threads here on WF about living in cheap places such as South East Asia (or any third world country close to you really), scrape together the airfare and get the fuck out of town and build your own online empire where you and only you is in control.

Funny, this thread brings to mind two quotes from a Stephen King book that I've been reading over and over again for a few years.

“When it comes to the past, we all stack the deck.”

***We remember events the way we that wish they were instead of how they actually were.

and

"Put an asshole on a plane in Boston, an asshole gets off in Seattle."

***You cant run away from a problem if you are the problem.

The book is "Duma Key".
Great read- the protagonist goes through a fairly rough situation. I find it comparable to my own life in many places

*** Realized that these "" might be kind of oblique without a little explaining.

 

[Fiver]

Things could be worse.

You could've unknowingly jacked off on a public beach in front of children and been charged as a sex offender.

 

[Dresden14]

My assumption, is quit SEO and the internet and find a full time job. At the end (evenings); do SEO part time until you accumulate ranking and start making money. Then quit your piece of shit day job and do it full time. Everyone falls, just gotta start over is all

 

[joshman1204]

All I can say is "Suck it up and quit bitching!". You are still alive and in good health what more could you possibly want? So what if nobody will give you a job, go make some money on your own and give them the middle finger.

I have had a hell of a year as well ... I lost my 6 figure job, spent all of my cash to start my own business, fell behind on everything I own to get my business going, and just this month lost my house and am now having to move my family in the next couple of days all while keeping my business running.

Yeah nobody died on my patio but I also never stopped and said poor me. Keep your head and just keep moving forward.

Life sucks and then you die!

 

[bizousoft]

The dollar is going up a little recently, so yeah .02

I think you could actually use this as an amazing catapult to something fantastic (thinking loosely - SlamTheMedia.com - MediaRuinedMyLifeToo.com - etc. - bro the media are scavengers and truly hated by the masses, you could start something huge with this vis a vis telling your story. Next thing you know you're writing a book, making a pilot, getting attention in ways you never thought possible, and providing a controversial yet pure avenue for other victims)...

I'm sorry you're going through agony and I'm thinking of ways to monetize it - but in truth I also loathe media when they distort stories and ruin peoples lives so this touches a deep sympathy spot in me and probably most others.

Reach out if I can help you in any way - be strong don't let them fuck you with no response/resolve from your end other than hiding/cloaking press.
N.

wow +rep way to think outside the box!

OP def knows how to tell a story, I'm sure others would listen too! Look at the responses you got here, not a single tl;dr