Always find this so sad, that guys who really don't want kids aren't really "allowed" by their circle of womenfolk to even DARE to express that fact. So they get "oopsed" into having a kid they neither want nor can afford, but are pressured to grow to "love."
This isn't a "kids are evil" thread.
This is a genuine question. How many guys here are childfree by choice?
How many WOULD have remained childfree but their fuck buddy/girlfriend/wife oopsed them and they got pregnant despite their wishes?
How many used lax birth control (no condom, no vasectomy) and then were shocked when a kid turned up?
Men really need to get more verbal about if they dont' want kids, they don't have to have them; and this doesn't mean you're a shitty person, either.
Most of the childfree by choice guys I know are real heroes; they work as EMT's, rescuing other people's kids all the time; they're military; they're social workers; they're in some way trying to make the world a better place, so that FUTURE kids don't have such a fucked up future. But they get a world of shit from their shared circle of womenfolk who lose their minds when a guy says he doesn't want children.
I have a vasectomy (easy fucking operation; don't be scared about it) and my wife had her tubes tied; we are fucking hardcore childfree by choice.
And we're both on the same page; if my vasectomy failed or her tubal ligation failed (which does happen sometimes) we live in a state where abortion is easily available.
Where do you stand? If you don't want kids, how much pressure do you feel that you HAVE to want kids at some point, you're being "immature" otherwise, you'll "regret" it otherwise?
ANd also, if you were pressured into having kids you didn't want, feel free to vent; I figure we could inspire some more conscious condom usage at the least, where you tell your horror stories about the child support you're paying, how you're forced to remain linked to the woman who had the kid you didn't want, etc.
And if you think kids are so important and wonderful, save me your silly rants; this is a thread for people who don't want kids and who feel social pressure to deny their desires. Because, what? The world needs more people (at seven billion and nine billion by 2050)....or your fucking DNA is so special? Really?
This isn't a "kids are evil" thread.
This is a genuine question. How many guys here are childfree by choice?
How many WOULD have remained childfree but their fuck buddy/girlfriend/wife oopsed them and they got pregnant despite their wishes?
How many used lax birth control (no condom, no vasectomy) and then were shocked when a kid turned up?
Men really need to get more verbal about if they dont' want kids, they don't have to have them; and this doesn't mean you're a shitty person, either.
Most of the childfree by choice guys I know are real heroes; they work as EMT's, rescuing other people's kids all the time; they're military; they're social workers; they're in some way trying to make the world a better place, so that FUTURE kids don't have such a fucked up future. But they get a world of shit from their shared circle of womenfolk who lose their minds when a guy says he doesn't want children.
I have a vasectomy (easy fucking operation; don't be scared about it) and my wife had her tubes tied; we are fucking hardcore childfree by choice.
And we're both on the same page; if my vasectomy failed or her tubal ligation failed (which does happen sometimes) we live in a state where abortion is easily available.
Where do you stand? If you don't want kids, how much pressure do you feel that you HAVE to want kids at some point, you're being "immature" otherwise, you'll "regret" it otherwise?
ANd also, if you were pressured into having kids you didn't want, feel free to vent; I figure we could inspire some more conscious condom usage at the least, where you tell your horror stories about the child support you're paying, how you're forced to remain linked to the woman who had the kid you didn't want, etc.
And if you think kids are so important and wonderful, save me your silly rants; this is a thread for people who don't want kids and who feel social pressure to deny their desires. Because, what? The world needs more people (at seven billion and nine billion by 2050)....or your fucking DNA is so special? Really?