What does your GF/Significant other do with their lives?

Doctor. Since both of us are pretty busy, we mostly mind our own businesses, we are still like we are dating, lol. We like to surprise each other... Well, she likes to surprise me... I am not very good at that...

We used to argue a lot earlier, but now we both know when to back down, and also that winning an argument isn't really more important than our feelings for each other.
 


Why are all you fags talking about pussy??? I thought this was a gay site???

Happy wife=happy life just don't tell her about Ctrl H....

She hates it when I know she read my FB page...
 
1yerrot said:
She texts me all day from her phone to my facebook messages because she knows I'm always online and complains about her lunch, her period, her everything. But she's super hot, soooooo..... Whatevs.

P.S. Oh and the more I ignore her the more mysterious I am to her and she seems to want me even more than when I try to pay her constant attention. Sooooooo.... Whatevs.
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My wife's a doctor. She's one of the most driven, ambitious people I know and she actually pushes me to do more. I was a lot less ambitious when I was younger, but a lot of her habits thankfully rubbed off on me.

OP, sounds like your GF just needs more confidence in herself. She's obviously intelligent enough to get into grad school. Her background might have more to do with her not feeling up to par at times. Sounds like you have drive and want her to have it as well. Keep encouraging her and push her to do her best, without giving her a hard time about it.
 
leadsupplier said:
but at times shes just an immature person with a short attention span and gets mad if i try to reason with her.

like:

her: "i study so much and i still do bad sometimes"
me: "you can fix that shit if you just identify your problem and work at it"
her: "i've tried everything, it's just a fact that i do shitty sometimes"
me: "that the dumbest thing i've ever heard"
her: "OMG ARE YOUR SERIOUS I'M HANGING UP RIGHT NOW"

it's like talking to a child who doesn't have the capacity to think logically yet or listen to reason so they just get angry and throw a tantrum instead lol
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She obviously has serious self esteem/worth issues. You can't reason with her, so stop trying.

Now - don't take this personal. This is just me rambling. :)

You can't "help" her, because that will only make things worse. NEVER, ever attempt to help her directly (in a significant way) with her coursework or the like - she'll come at you later on for "not letting her accomplish her goals herself" and that she "feels worthless and dumb and it's all done now and she'll never know". I know it sounds stupid, but be careful how you treat your relationship with her.

She (most likely) needs a lot of fake "recognition" to keep her happy. I've seen a lot of similar people in grad school. They work 5x as hard on their projects and artificial "research" than they do on they personal relationships or real life work. They crave recognition from their superiors and worry about letting them down more than anything else.

Low(ish) sex drive, overly worried, needs stability, unsure of what she wants to do/accomplish in the future. Most likely a perfectionist when it comes to irrelevant, tiny details. Has almost no logical reasoning capabilities - makes the most ridiculous statements and assumptions when she's worried or upset.

Not saying that's her though. Good luck.
 
leadsupplier said:
she stated that "People are born smarter than other people" with which i countered "thats not true".
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That is absolutely true and she is right.

Now, here are two ways out:

- be a man and put up with her whining, insecurity and fear, assure her and provide for her, finally shaping and leading your family;

- get sick of her whining and negativity and dump her, find yourself a good mother-like girl that will put up with your whining, insecurity and fear, finally shaping and leading your family.
 
medicalhumor said:
My wife's a doctor. She's one of the most driven, ambitious people I know and she actually pushes me to do more. I was a lot less ambitious when I was younger, but a lot of her habits thankfully rubbed off on me.

OP, sounds like your GF just needs more confidence in herself. She's obviously intelligent enough to get into grad school. Her background might have more to do with her not feeling up to par at times. Sounds like you have drive and want her to have it as well. Keep encouraging her and push her to do her best, without giving her a hard time about it.
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MedicalHumor, you hit it on the head man. I was always an honors student in high school, did ok in college without really studying hardcore. But the past 2 years or so, getting a real job really motivated me and drove me to do things in ways I never thought was possible. I never really tried in school, but since I’ve been in the real world I’ve “Woke the fuck up”

She was just an average student in high school, she ended up getting into my university after 2 years at another university and she did pretty well. So I know that she has it in her. The problem is that I can’t talk to her like a normal person. Like I was simply suggesting she pinpoint her issues and work on them, but instead of just having a regular nonchalant convo about it, shes snaps and gets all defensive. This is the part where I can’t tell if she is being really whiny and immature, or if all girls would be like this because it’s a personal thing. I don’t know wtf I don’t know.
 
My wife makes money as manager of a grocery store so I can stay home and pretend to try to make money on the internet but really just fap and play wow.
 
There are ceilings to performance and I honestly don't think it's possible to raise the ceiling that your biology has given to you. You can control how hard you try but I think it's like diminishing returns the closer you get to your ceiling.

Also, PROTIP: When women complain, they're often not looking for a solution. They just want to be heard and to be agreed with. The solution that you do offer them, they've probably already thought of so you're actually insulting them when you're trying to help.

Just bite your tongue, refrain from what you would say naturally and say, "It's OK, I believe in you and no matter what happens, we'll work through it together"


Oh and to answer your question: receptionist.. not a very career-oriented woman but I trust her to take care of the family unit b/c she has hella family values :P
 
dsiomtw said:
Step 1 is to realize that you're 100% wrong about this. :)

You couldn't beat Roger Federer in tennis no matter how hard you tried or how many years you practiced. You simply weren't born with the skills he was born with.

I could give you 500 other examples...
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Couldnt disagree with something more in my entire life.

How do you think Federer got to be the best in the world? thousands and thousands of hours of the most focused training you can imagine.

Check out this book by matthew syed [ame="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Bounce-Myth-Talent-Power-Practice/dp/0007350546"]Amazon[/ame], it basically breaks down exactly what makes a world champion like tiger woods and guess what? It wasnt some devine miracle bestoed by superman it was some of the hardest training you could imagine from the age of 5, for years and years. This practise dominated his entire life that he had to sacrifice his childhood. He couldnt even have a relationship, hence his crazy cheating ways today.

People love to be this ignorant as it justifies there lack of succes " Oh i would have been the best golfer in the world but i wasnt gifted enough" GTFO!

/rant
 
leadsupplier said:
my girl is going to be a teacher as well. and i'm cool with that. she respects my ambition and doesn't mind me working. but at times shes just an immature person with a short attention span and gets mad if i try to reason with her.

like:

her: "i study so much and i still do bad sometimes"
me: "you can fix that shit if you just identify your problem and work at it"
her: "i've tried everything, it's just a fact that i do shitty sometimes"
me: "that the dumbest thing i've ever heard"
her: "OMG ARE YOUR SERIOUS I'M HANGING UP RIGHT NOW"

it's like talking to a child who doesn't have the capacity to think logically yet or listen to reason so they just get angry and throw a tantrum instead lol
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New girlfriend.

What you are describing above is a person who will give up at not only schooling when it gets tough, but also your relationship and even possible future children.

I've had this talk before when things get real tough with my own or she has a moment of doubt in herself and the answer is always the same:

If you haven't given your best then try harder. If you already have and there's really nothing else to do then at least you gave it your all and failed, and thats better than not trying at all.
 
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