What does your GF/Significant other do with their lives?

leadsupplier said:
"People are born smarter than other people" with which i countered "thats not true".
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Sorry your incorrect. People are simply smarter than others, so she's actually right about that.

leadsupplier said:
Still she continued to tell me that it's "impossible" for her to do well on tests. While i believe it's something that can be fixed if she really tried hard enough.
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If she has a history of not doing well at school she might not do well on tests. The reason for this is simply that some people don't feel challenged enough by the material itself and become bored and un-interested with it.

leadsupplier said:
Bottom line is that i think anyone can achieve anything no matter how smart/stupid they are as long as they are willing to work at it, and put their mind and dedication to it, especially something like grad school. But after this conversation with her, i now know that she does not share a similar view. This is a big deal for me.
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The two points you mentioned above, in my opinion are different from doing well in life (becoming successful). Experience and hands on is really what works, makes you learn the fastest and you'll be way better off than most that go to school. I bet MOST of the guys here never did post-secondary.

Sit down with her and ask her what she wants to do, determine if school is going to get her any closer to that. As long as it's not being a doctor or a lawyer (where licesnses are involved and I think a 100% requirement to go to school for those) then you can find away to get her into what she likes with some hands on experience. Also woman change their mind quite often about what they want to do. If you plan to have kids, then it would be ideal that she does something she can do on her own schedule.

leadsupplier said:
So what does your GF or significant other do for a living, and what is their outlook on life and whats achievable?
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I don't really want to get into what she does and doesn't do rather I'll leave you with this. Boredom is the death of any relationship. If she's going to be sitting at home watching the ceiling she's going to hate it and she's going to think and over analyze EVERYTHING. So anything that keeps her busy and happy is good for you. Ideally that something will help her become personally successful. A happy wife is a healthy relationship lol :)
 


Just know the divorce rate is higher when you live with a woma before she makes you marry her.
 
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No matter what, don't let her be a "stay at home" wife. Bitch should get a job at least out of respect, even if it's just cutting hair or some shit.

Stay at home wives lose the real world realization and start drinking/cheating and all that type of bullshit. If you want a "real housewives of ect." cunt, then let her stay at home while you work your ass off and pay for everything.
 
metalshark said:
No matter what, don't let her be a "stay at home" wife. Bitch should get a job at least out of respect, even if it's just cutting hair or some shit.

Stay at home wives lose the real world realization and start drinking/cheating and all that type of bullshit. If you want a "real housewives of ect." cunt, then let her stay at home while you work your ass off and pay for everything.
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Congrats, this is one of the worst stereotypes I have seen in quite a while. I look forward to your narrow views on Jews and blacks next...
 
MediaBuysEyez said:
Congrats, this is one of the worst stereotypes I have seen in quite a while. I look forward to your narrow views on Jews and blacks next...
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Narrow minded? How about realistic. Please explain the benefits of having a lady mooch off you in your house, watching some bullshit on your TV, driving your car, eating your food, shopping with your money, ect.

Give someone everything on a silver platter and they will lose their fucking mind. It's the same reason spoiled kids are ungrateful little faggots and the same reason lotto winners burn out quick.
 
@OP, I would recommend getting (for her or for you) Carol Dweck's book "Mindset." It's basically designed for these types of situations, and you could present it to her as something to help her with teaching if you needed. It can help her change her screwed up views on her own, or it can help you change them for her. Good luck.
 
metalshark said:
Narrow minded? How about realistic. Please explain the benefits of having a lady mooch off you in your house, watching some bullshit on your TV, driving your car, eating your food, shopping with your money, ect.

Give someone everything on a silver platter and they will lose their fucking mind. It's the same reason spoiled kids are ungrateful little faggots and the same reason lotto winners burn out quick.
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It's not his fault you were born with a small cock.

Listen, say what you want about a stay at home mom, but raising little kids and keeping a house a home is not an easy task.

What's that you say, "Hurr durr I make all da monies."? Good for you, whose raising your kids, cooking your meals, and sucking your cock? That's right it's that good for nothing, free loading cunt of a stay at home mom.

Congrats on being the dumbest fuck I had the displeasure of coming in contact with today. I was going to give the OP the award for saying that everyone is born equal (I guess those born mentally retarded just aren't trying hard enough), but you took the cake. Congrats!
 
It doesn't matter if you envision your GF as a housewife or a CEO. Every life has hard times, and if her standard response is to make excuses and blame things out of her control instead of breaking down the problem and doing her best with what she's got, you will be miserable. Is this a single sensitive issue you've managed to aggravate - or a persistent problem in how she approaches problems in general?

Think about it in terms of future issues you might face -

Business is bad and the budget is tight - Will she feed you and your potential kids ramen and macaroni and cheese because "that's what you can afford"? Or will she plant a garden/shop sales/clip coupons to make sure the best possible food ends up on the table?

You relocate your family for a business opportunity. She arrives in the new town with no job and no friends - Will she dig in and meet people, beat down doors to get a job, come up with creative ways to make money in the meantime, etc.? Or will she whine and complain and blame the move and generally make everyone more miserable?

I dated a guy like that for several years too many, and it was exhausting. His parents sold the family business out from under him and he proceeded to waste the next 3 years making excuses instead of actually doing anything. The constant stream of "I can't do --- because of ---" and "It's not my fault ---" wears you down pretty quickly. I stuck around way too long out of guilt, and because I mistakenly believed he'd snap out of it once the initial shock and depression passed. In reality, it was always there and I just didn't notice it until he had a major problem to deal with. Not a mistake I'll make again.

But like I said...school might just be a touchy subject for her. A lot of people have weird blocks about school that don't seem to apply elsewhere in their lives.
 
mx=headroom said:
It's not his fault you were born with a small cock.

Listen, say what you want about a stay at home mom, but raising little kids and keeping a house a home is not an easy task.

What's that you say, "Hurr durr I make all da monies."? Good for you, whose raising your kids, cooking your meals, and sucking your cock? That's right it's that good for nothing, free loading cunt of a stay at home mom.

Congrats on being the dumbest fuck I had the displeasure of coming in contact with today. I was going to give the OP the award for saying that everyone is born equal (I guess those born mentally retarded just aren't trying hard enough), but you took the cake. Congrats!
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Believe it or not, I never said anything about "MOM". I said stay at home "wife". I was trying to express to OP that, well, as long as she pursues doing something active with her life then perhaps it doesn't matter if she's a rocket scientist or a god damn hair dresser. Perhaps it's my fault for not making it clear, but Spouse ≠ Mom
 
@OP,
Sounds like she is playing the "how pussy whipped are you?" game. I don't know how long you've been together, but she is seeing how far she can push the envelope and judging your reactions... and this is typical when a relationship escalates to a "new level" like moving in together.

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Trust me on this one point: She has a vagina...she is going to do something uber stupid and consequently piss you off to the nth degree (and she realizes this as well). She would rather test the waters with petty bullshit like you have relayed at this stage of your relationship and not be totally devastated in the future should she be in a very emotional state, do something stupid (@ this point she feels safe with you) and you blow the fuck up and act like a fool and shatter her illusions of safety and trust in you.

Not too mention, if she keeps your expectations of her lowered by playing aloof, "not smart", coquettish and coy... you're blissfully ignorant of her true capabilities. This is definitely a disadvantage for you homeboy! But that's the nature of the game.

Women need a protector and a provider. This is hardwired into them. This is why a majority of smoking hot women at some point in their lives have had a relationship with some idiotic meat head who treats them like shit and takes advantage of them. Hard wired Darwinian shit.

This is her "nesting behavior" kicking in... she needs to know how you'll react with kids, bills and the general B.S. trivialities that are life. REGARDLESS IF THIS HAS BEEN DISCUSSED WITH YOU OR NOT, this is what is running through her mind. Basically what she is trying to find out is - are you like her Daddy? And if she has Daddy issues, are you like her "ideal Daddy" should have been?
 
You will live long together (maybe). During that time your views and her views on that and other subjects will change 500 times. You don't want to live with a copy of yourself, do you?
 
Andrew Scherer said:
Only a girl would call you up worried about the possibilities of future arguments, then starts an argument about it.

Now that shit is hilarious
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She probably expressed the concern because she wanted to hear reassuring things but she didn't want to come right out and say something like, "I've had a rough day and/or I'm stressed about this big change and I'd like to hear something nice that makes me feel closer to you."

Girls do this a lot - sometimes because they just need more affection than the guy volunteers, and other times because they're stressed out. Some people are too scared to say what they mean in that scenario. Others don't think about the reasoning behind what they're doing so they never consider a more direct approach. Some girls don't feel like it means as much if they have to prompt the guy to say something (even though that's what they're doing either way).

My guess is that she thought she'd hear reassurance and was unpleasantly surprised when it was more like reassurance + mild criticism. We're all imperfect and funny in our own ways :)
 
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