A month or three ago? Sounds like the only person you give a fuck about is you. Also you don't even know what she's dying of, I doubt it's because of her knee.
Grow the fuck up, life isn't always about YOU!
So someone is dying
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A month or three ago? Sounds like the only person you give a fuck about is you. Also you don't even know what she's dying of, I doubt it's because of her knee.
Grow the fuck up, life isn't always about YOU!
It's not about you, it's about her. Shut up and go visit her before it's to late.
Also, sorry for your future loss.
Also, sorry for your future loss.
Why would you go to the Funeral and not see the person on their death bed.
Seems like you've got this backwards?
Funeral is for sentiment and for the survivors to grieve (something you don't seem interested in)
Visiting that person on their death bed is a last opportunity to communicate and visit with THAT PERSON on this earth.
Seems like a no brainer.
Seems like you've got this backwards?
Funeral is for sentiment and for the survivors to grieve (something you don't seem interested in)
Visiting that person on their death bed is a last opportunity to communicate and visit with THAT PERSON on this earth.
Seems like a no brainer.
This sucks man. I lost 2 grandparents last year within six months of each other. I didn't get to say bye to my grandfather and it sucks. Go in there and let her say bye to you if nothing else. That shit is important to them.
My jaw honestly dropped reading this. Your opening post was fairly bad, but then each reply you made kept making it worse, and worse.
Do you have any idea of selfish you sound? If I ever tried pulling a stunt like you're thinking, guaranteed my entire family would disown me, or at the very least, hold it against me for the rest of our lives. I couldn't imagine... "i'd really like to see grandma one last time and everything, but you know, I'm busy, and have e-mail to check, and you know how it is...". Fuck me... without her, you wouldn't even be alive to question whether or not you should visit her.
Go visit your grandma...
Do you have any idea of selfish you sound? If I ever tried pulling a stunt like you're thinking, guaranteed my entire family would disown me, or at the very least, hold it against me for the rest of our lives. I couldn't imagine... "i'd really like to see grandma one last time and everything, but you know, I'm busy, and have e-mail to check, and you know how it is...". Fuck me... without her, you wouldn't even be alive to question whether or not you should visit her.
Go visit your grandma...
It sounds like you're not that close to your grandmother and your asking us to alleviate some sort of guilt tied to responsibility.
Figure your shit out before she dies, though, you really don't want to regret it.
I agree with the others who've said go see your Grandma one last time for her, not for you.
It's a strange action going to visit a human being and knowing it's going to be the last time you ever see them. Unfortunately I had to do this twice in the past 2 years. My sister in law, who was only 44, had a rare blood cancer and was home on hospice after all treatments failed. My wife and I spent a month with the family. I had to come back to California for work when Cindy was in her final days. I remember going over to her bed and saying goodbye to my wife's sister who was way too young to be dying, leaving behind a husband and two teenage daughters. I just told her that I would see her later and I loved her. That was it.
I did the same thing with my Aunt about a year after that. It's hard to do, but I would really regret not being there one last time to see them and say goodbye. It's not the best image to remember them by, but if it makes their last days or hours better, then it's worth it.
It's a strange action going to visit a human being and knowing it's going to be the last time you ever see them. Unfortunately I had to do this twice in the past 2 years. My sister in law, who was only 44, had a rare blood cancer and was home on hospice after all treatments failed. My wife and I spent a month with the family. I had to come back to California for work when Cindy was in her final days. I remember going over to her bed and saying goodbye to my wife's sister who was way too young to be dying, leaving behind a husband and two teenage daughters. I just told her that I would see her later and I loved her. That was it.
I did the same thing with my Aunt about a year after that. It's hard to do, but I would really regret not being there one last time to see them and say goodbye. It's not the best image to remember them by, but if it makes their last days or hours better, then it's worth it.
Seems to me that you are really scared to death and that is why you are afraid to go. Just go.
Death is natural part of life and being sad when you relatives pass away is also natural part of life and there is no reason to try to avoid it.
Death is natural part of life and being sad when you relatives pass away is also natural part of life and there is no reason to try to avoid it.
Dude you need to go see her. Its not the best situation I know. I went through this with my grandparents and was the legal and medical power of attorney for 2 of my 4 grandparents.
Funny how the best conversation I ever had with my Grandma was 2 weeks before she died. A lot was discussed and shit I had no idea about or was too young to understand was brought to light. That hour I spent with her changed the way I view family, relationships and life in general.
Funny how the best conversation I ever had with my Grandma was 2 weeks before she died. A lot was discussed and shit I had no idea about or was too young to understand was brought to light. That hour I spent with her changed the way I view family, relationships and life in general.
You're having too much pride right now. Tell me how much pride you have once she passes away without seeing her grandson. Real talk though go see her, cut the tough guy bullshit because I know deep down in side your soccer hating ass wants to see her, if you didn't you wouldn't even make this thread. No pun intended
You have to visit because it's not fair to your grandmother. You have to do it for her even though you don't wanna go Put yourself in her position, she probably just wants to be with you for a little while that's left, don't be selfish.
Need the "what's in it for me?" angle? Do it because doing good things makes you stronger. And it gives you that wonderful "I'm a decent human being" feeling.
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Oh, and once you get done spending some time with your grandma, think about other people in your life you could thank and/or make aware of what they've meant to you. I promise you - you won't always get such perfect notification that they're about to leave you forever.
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgnR3iIjO_c"]TEDxSanDiego - Kurt Gray - Becoming Superman: Doing Good Makes You Strong - YouTube[/ame]
Oh, and once you get done spending some time with your grandma, think about other people in your life you could thank and/or make aware of what they've meant to you. I promise you - you won't always get such perfect notification that they're about to leave you forever.