My 5,000th Post - Not What You Expected

eliquid

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For my 5,000th post, I wanted to share something I thought was valuable. I wanted to share a real life lesson, not another fluff guide or bull shit post we see here all the time.

I am sure I will be flamed, but right now I just don't give 2 fucks. Here goes...


Tuesday night, I found out my wife ( whom I have known for 10 years now and have 2 kids with ) told me she wanted a divorce and I know its not some joke or angry phase she is in. Its the real deal.

In an instant, your whole world could get fucked up no matter how much you have prepared for or worked to be successful. I haven't been able to see my kids now for 4 days now and I am sure I wont see them tomorrow either. Monday she is talking to her attorney and I am sure this process will accelerate in the coming weeks too.

Something you should take away from this is:



No matter how hard you work, how hard you plan, how much money you have,.. everything you truly cherish can be gone in an instant. Sometimes working all that time to "grind" and to get even to a comfortable/reasonable place in life causes you to miss out on shit like spending time with your family or just being social-able/nice to people.

In my time building up a life my kids and wife could enjoy and I could be proud of, all of it ultimately meant nothing when it came down to it. I worked extremely hard, sometimes 2-3 day jobs at once ( before I had success ). Even when I found success, I continued to work 20 hour days to ensure it stayed and was enough to last more then a typical online marketing campaign. I was the only one making income, so I thought this was what I needed to do more then anything to make sure I never went back to "struggling" in my prior life and that my kids wouldn't have to struggle either.

In the end, I would trade everything I ever gained from this career to reverse what has been put in motion. I gave 16 years of my life chasing a dream and lifestyle so that my family could have a better life and I did anything I possibly could to make that happen, everything but spend time with them when it would have mattered the most to them. Who gives a fuck about the money when the people you love are no longer in your immediate life.

For my 5k post, I want to ask you to do something for me. If you have a spouse, kids, or a loved one.. spend some quality time with them this coming up week.


Sorry about not posting a how to guide or other things you guys wanted in my poll post. I felt this was much more valuable and less talked about here and could make a real impact on a few people on this board.

With this, I more then likely won't be online much. If you need to contact me and you know me, then you have my email. Thanks, and I wish you all the best in the years to come.
 


The most valuable 5,000th post that WF will ever see.

I'm truly to sorry that this happened.
 
You're epic dude... just epic. Who could have seen this?

One thing's for sure, though. Time to step it up like the alpha male you are and get through this. Don't back down, ever! It's all about you now
 
Eliquid, you don't need to apologize for not providing a how-to-guide. This post was simply a wake-up call to anyone who doesn't spend time with their friends and loved ones. I thank you for sharing it. I hope everything works out for you in the future to come. I'm sorry for the events that happened to you.
 
You're epic dude... just epic. Who could have seen this?

One thing's for sure, though. Time to step it up like the alpha male you are and get through this. Don't back down, ever! It's all about you now

No it's not about it. It's about his kids. People going through a divorce and thinking it's all about them end up hurting the kids the most.
 
Sorry to hear that bro. I know this really sucks... because I used to face this kind of problem too but I manage to save it, thankfully. You should find a way to save it if you still love them and I believe you are. Good luck bro.
 
Shit bro, in all realness, probably better then any how-to guide.. sometimes the $$ blinds us from what is really important.

Hope all works out brother!
 
Seriously. This is the most valuable thousandth post ever in WF.

eliquid - Sorry to hear bro. I hope you will get back to your happy life pretty soon.
 
No it's not about it. It's about his kids. People going through a divorce and thinking it's all about them end up hurting the kids the most.

Yeah, what I want to know is if his wife ever sat down with him to voice her concerns.

If she just up and left like this, that's really fucking selfish. You don't put your kids through this shit when you can work it out-even if it's really fucking hard .
 
Yeah, what I want to know is if his wife ever sat down with him to voice her concerns.

If she just up and left like this, that's really fucking selfish. You don't put your kids through this shit when you can work it out, even if it's really fucking hard .

I agree, but that doesn't mean he has to stoop to her level. When two people bicker and fight it really does hurt the kids. The best thing he can do is try to remain friends with her if he can't work it out.
 
As a father this truly saddens me :( ... Very sorry to hear that your going through this.

Work through it, use your head, be diplomatic, remember in the end it's all for your children.
 
It's true you never know when and how things will happen. A month and a half ago my girlfriend and I split up after 6yrs of living together. It was not expected or planed on thats for sure.

I am so sorry man, things must be horrible now especially since kids are involved. Everyone I have talked to in similar or past situations has said to try and calm yourself from the initial shock of things and then throw your self at something that will keep you and your mind occupied as much as possible.

I bought a shitty 49cc scooter and I have taken it apart and rebuilt it at least 4 times now, I also just finished my Padi open water scuba diving course and have started diving when I can.

You need to stay as busy as you possible can, with as much as you can, not just work.
 
I wish you are just joking and one day you will come here and post that it was the biggest troll you did with all the wf guys.

I wish whatever you posted is NOT true.

You THE MAN and I have a HUGE respect for you. :(
 
Been with my wife for 10+ years and yeah, can't imagine how that would be. So I won't give you any advice, haven't been there myself. Fucking get through it though.
 
I'm sorry to hear about that. I can't begin to understand what your going through right now, but if you ever need someone to talk to vent some frustration or what ever, hit me up. I promise I won't try and take advantage of you and try and have sex with you.