My friend shared with me earlier this morning. Enjoy.
Why Successful People Leave Their Loser Friends Behind
Why Successful People Leave Their Loser Friends Behind
Why Successful People Leave Their Loser Friends Behind
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I don't subscribe to this kind of logic. For me the only measurement is are you a cool person to hang around. I don't give a shit if you're successful or not. Now of course, I do seek out other successful people in this field to bounce ideas from BUT I'd never cut a friend out of my life because he's not a "success".
What about people to just chill with and goof around? IMO that's what's important in life.
Also, what kind of question is:
The only person that can get me anywhere is me. I don't judge people on a superficial standard of "can they give me something of value". The thinking "is this person going to help me succeed" is just another (albeit sneakier) way of believing in a magic pill, that one thing that'll break you through.
Of course the truly toxic people need to be cut off but I doubt this guy is talking about drug addicts who'd steal from you, and bums alike.
What about people to just chill with and goof around? IMO that's what's important in life.
Also, what kind of question is:
The only person that can get me anywhere is me. I don't judge people on a superficial standard of "can they give me something of value". The thinking "is this person going to help me succeed" is just another (albeit sneakier) way of believing in a magic pill, that one thing that'll break you through.
Of course the truly toxic people need to be cut off but I doubt this guy is talking about drug addicts who'd steal from you, and bums alike.
So true.
It can be refreshing to have a friend that doesn't give a shit about business. I enjoy business related activities and it consumes a good portion of my time but I've realized the need keep myself grounded with things that aren't business related.
I don't think it's so much as dumping them over not being successful as to the dynamics of the relationship changing. Their could be jealousy on the part of the unsuccessful one (wouldn't call them a loser) also as a person gets more successful, new opportunities may spring up (charity events, business gatherings/meetup) that would place the more successful person in a different set of people.
I think the title is a little misleading. I don't take away from the article that you have to sever all ties with your less successful friends if one hopes to achieve success. I agree that it's good to have successful people in your network, but these won't always necessarily be your closest friends.
It's the chicken or the egg with this scenario. Did you become successful because you hung out with successful people, or did you become successful and now your social circles have changed so you now hang out with only successful people? With the later, I think that's the reason that many successful people may lose touch with friends who haven't shared similar success. Not necessarily on purpose, but a successful person tends to go places and be involved in activities that the less successful friend might not be involved in or even feel comfortable in.
Successful people are generally busy people, engaged in their craft, so friends from the good ol days might be left behind because of this as well. My point is that I don't believe successful people usually make a conscious decision to ditch their less successful friends. It's just something that can happen sometimes as a byproduct of becoming successful.
Your friends are your friends for a reason. Be it loyalty, things in common, physical proximity, etc. We don't all have the same friends our entire life. Friends are dynamic. Some come and go. Having a good mix of friends is a good thing.
It's the chicken or the egg with this scenario. Did you become successful because you hung out with successful people, or did you become successful and now your social circles have changed so you now hang out with only successful people? With the later, I think that's the reason that many successful people may lose touch with friends who haven't shared similar success. Not necessarily on purpose, but a successful person tends to go places and be involved in activities that the less successful friend might not be involved in or even feel comfortable in.
Successful people are generally busy people, engaged in their craft, so friends from the good ol days might be left behind because of this as well. My point is that I don't believe successful people usually make a conscious decision to ditch their less successful friends. It's just something that can happen sometimes as a byproduct of becoming successful.
Your friends are your friends for a reason. Be it loyalty, things in common, physical proximity, etc. We don't all have the same friends our entire life. Friends are dynamic. Some come and go. Having a good mix of friends is a good thing.
I don't judge people based on their success. I judge people based on their willingness to pursue their dreams and their passion. And not right away, but in the long term.
If you are a coward who doesn't have the guts to follow their destiny, I'm not too interested in being your friend. I'm not talking about money; I'm talking about people who conform to a life they don't want to live and continue on that way without looking to change (real change, not buying WSOs). If your dream is a day job, good for you. If is learning a new language, to play in instrument, to be a world champ chess player, whatever; what you want doesn't so much matter as that you have a backbone to go for it.
Success is what you achieve when you pursue your dreams successfully. There is luck in that. And time. Someone might be brave, but unlucky, or they are still not there yet; their time hasn't come. That is ok. But you have to have balls in life. I don't need cowards in my life; life is scary enough as it is to suround myself with small, petty minded people who don't take the risk of failure.
Call me a cunt if you like.
I like this, as I get older I find I have started to appreciate good character qualities in friends more and more. I would much rather have ONE great friend then 10 "meh" friends because odds are the one great friend will be the only one out of the 11 that will be by your side when you need a friend the most.
Quality over quantity any day.
I would never push a way a friend because they aren't successful, that's stupid. I have friends who are successful but lack good character values as a whole. Who do you think I'd rather spend my time with? The friends with good character. Just because you're a "success" isn't going to bring you class/good character qualities.
The problem with a lot of the friends you meet on the path to success view you as an asset rather than a "friend". I know I tend to do this with a lot of people I meet, thinking how I can help them and utilize them in my "rolodex" as opposed to becoming bros.
I have turned over some people in my life in the last year. Not because I am successful or that they are losers.
But because I believe this is important for my own mental and emotional health ...
I want to be around people whose values and character reflects the best of what I aim to be.
But because I believe this is important for my own mental and emotional health ...
I want to be around people whose values and character reflects the best of what I aim to be.
I get fulfillment out of being around those who may have lesser character and value than I do and being someone that they can look up to and aspire to be.
I dont define people as "winners" or "losers", so I wouldn't dump someone that I considered myself to be friendly with based on some status of "loser".
I treat all people equal, I'm a equal opportunity hater.
You give me respect, I give you respect. Thats where I draw the line.
I treat all people equal, I'm a equal opportunity hater.
You give me respect, I give you respect. Thats where I draw the line.