All opposition to the state as a state is always evil. The state never tolerates anarchists or effective reformers.
Fascism is a specific system of political economy. It gets used to mean "bad government" but it is actually something well defined which does not necessarily have anything to do with theocracy in particular. Note, Hitler and Mussolini came to power as fascists via democracy. America has a very fascistic economy and it is a constitutional republic.
I think a theocracy, depending on the religion, and how strictly the religion is enforced, could be much better than secular democracy, which is essentially amoral.
In a secular democracy, there are no morals, except that the state is always right. In a theocracy, there is rule by moral right, which might be at times barbaric and backwards, but the laws are consistent with that moral ethic. Politicians are confined to acting within the moral rules, not the whims of the voters or the money of special interests. Right and wrong are defined absolutely.
As an aside, just as the Muslims have no right to impose Sharia law on you, you have no right to impose western secular ethics on them. If you insist your morals are superior, they can also make the same claim. These are value judgments, subjective and individual.
You gotta remember, when the Danes were burning women at the stake as witches, Muslims already had 900 years of women having a right to inheritance, initiate divorce and to conduct business as private property owners.
I am not defending Islam or attacking any other religious ideal. My ethics are such that all aggression is wrong, whether it is attacking Iran to prevent them from building a bomb (or really, to protect oil interests) or attacking them to overthrow their government and way of life (apparently nothing was learned from the Islamic Revolution against the Shah and western values).
Live and let live. The Persians by and large are quite charming people.
Fascism is really ugly. I live in Italy and people tell me about the time when the country was under Mussolini. It was terrible, repressive and violent. Secular democracy does have its faults and should be in a process of constant reform, but it would appear to be the best model for securing peace and prosperity for the majority of people. That said, if people want to vote themselves into national socialism, for example, then they need to live with the consequences.
A theocracy would be awful on many grounds but the main issue is that Christianity, Judaism and Islam are immoral in themselves because their gods do immoral acts and break their won moral code on a whim (e.g. compare the commandment 'do not kill' with the endless killings ordered by god in the old testament. Incidentally yahweh is complicit in slavery, infanticide, genocide, ethnic cleansing, rape of female prisoners of war, human sacrifice and on it goes).
Your point about female Muslim property rights is moot on at least two counts: In Islam, women themselves are property; Islam itself does not appear to have developed since 900 years ago whilst Christianity has moved-on.
The bigger geo-political picture is probably about oil, in the end. However that doesn't stop me from wanting the Iranian weapons programme to end.