Solve this disagreement between the wife and I, who's right?
- Thread starter JMan1234
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Very whipped. You need to step it up
By the sounds of it you've let her have her way for too long in your relationship and now she's the boss.
If you had shown more of what you're made of earlier on, you may have had a chance at a quick resolution. Now, you standing up to her will be a major problem especially if she's in the bosom of her family and they are more likely to see her point of view than yours.
Just make it clear that you are going to see your bro regardless and are indifferent to / willing to accept her displeasure
By the sounds of it you've let her have her way for too long in your relationship and now she's the boss.
If you had shown more of what you're made of earlier on, you may have had a chance at a quick resolution. Now, you standing up to her will be a major problem especially if she's in the bosom of her family and they are more likely to see her point of view than yours.
Just make it clear that you are going to see your bro regardless and are indifferent to / willing to accept her displeasure
You're approaching this all wrong. She's not a guy. Women don't respond to rational arguments in emotional situations.
I have a wife who is possible the most rational person you could meet at work, but when shit like this crops up, she's a fucking fruitloop.
Luckily, this fact makes them remarkably easy to outmaneuvre, if you just think a few steps ahead. Here's how I'd run it:
Call up her Grandparents, tell 'em how much you are looking forward to the reunion, and then explain the brother situation. Ask if it's OK, because you didn't want to offend them, but it would mean a lot to him.
They will (ofc) say yes. You can tell your wife then that you didn't want to upset her GPs, so you called them to check, and they insisted that see your brother.
Having done that, you've now placed your wife in an impossible situation.
She can either let you go see your brother.
Or she can carry on insisting, and have to explain to GPs why she wouldn't let you see your brother, and look like a shrew at the reunion.
Now, the important thing here is how you break this to your wife.
DO NOT FRAME IT IN AS I WAS RIGHT AND YOU WERE WRONG.
The key with women is to let them feel that they're right, whilst doing whatever the fuck you want with your life.
So you say "You know, you were right honey, I was being thoughtless about this."
(pause).
"So I called up you GPs to check that it was ok, because I really wouldn't want to upset them or your family. And they insisted that I go."
Try not to smirk when you do this as it will ruin the whole effort.
I have a wife who is possible the most rational person you could meet at work, but when shit like this crops up, she's a fucking fruitloop.
Luckily, this fact makes them remarkably easy to outmaneuvre, if you just think a few steps ahead. Here's how I'd run it:
Call up her Grandparents, tell 'em how much you are looking forward to the reunion, and then explain the brother situation. Ask if it's OK, because you didn't want to offend them, but it would mean a lot to him.
They will (ofc) say yes. You can tell your wife then that you didn't want to upset her GPs, so you called them to check, and they insisted that see your brother.
Having done that, you've now placed your wife in an impossible situation.
She can either let you go see your brother.
Or she can carry on insisting, and have to explain to GPs why she wouldn't let you see your brother, and look like a shrew at the reunion.
Now, the important thing here is how you break this to your wife.
DO NOT FRAME IT IN AS I WAS RIGHT AND YOU WERE WRONG.
The key with women is to let them feel that they're right, whilst doing whatever the fuck you want with your life.
So you say "You know, you were right honey, I was being thoughtless about this."
(pause).
"So I called up you GPs to check that it was ok, because I really wouldn't want to upset them or your family. And they insisted that I go."
Try not to smirk when you do this as it will ruin the whole effort.
Give silent treatment and go anyway. 3 hours is nothing compared to 72. If she can't understand that then imagine what will happen when real problems crop up.
Vitali Klitschko - Tomasz Adamek
Although I'll try to watch Khan - Judah too (not with my brother, just at home by myself)
Jesus! This wife business seems very complex. I guess I will stick to sticking it around wherever I can find...