serious question? QUITTING SMOKING

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This is about my mom. She is only 44 but has been smoking since she was 12. My dad just told me that she had to go to the hospital because she woke up and couldnt breath. I guess she has something called COPD? And now she has pneumonia. My mom is my whole life and i am just looking for suggestions from anyone here that quit smoking? She has tried EVERYTHING.. the patch, gum, hypnosis. And please dont bash on my thread or about my mom, just asking in advance ;)

Thanks for the info and hope some of you know something else she can try.
 


Lock her in a room... make sure there are no windows, and make sure the door and walls are big enough so she can't break free.... sort of like a prison cell.

Add a thick glass window on the door so you can see her so that when you need to bring her food, you can check she's on the other side of the room.

Don't tell her about this idea.... just do it. She'll thank you for it in the future.

Make sure you don't give her a phone or any other means of contact.

Just give her a tv and some music for entertainment.

Give her a few weeks in there, she'll lose the addiction :)
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Serious idea, but if you're not up for it ....

Will power is what she will need... if she hasn't got that, you've got no hope.
 
i know man. will power. trust me, were trying hard to help her. shes gonna die if she doesnt quit.
 
babyboy808 said:
Hey Aden,

Sorry to hear about your mom. I would suggest that she join a support group of some sort, if there aren't any, create one in your area...
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I second that.

She should post a video of herself promising to quit smoking and send it to all of her friends. SHAME and FEAR are what get people to quit who are otherwise totally without willpower.

I think NBC proved this about a year ago by making overweight people sign a contract that they would let the network broadcast pictures of them in bikinis to 15 million people if they didn't lose 10 pounds. It worked for all but one of them.
 
i even told her i would quit if she did.. andi only smoke wheni drink. nothign helps. its like she only wants to stop whenshes really sick, then she doesnt care. i dont know what to do, if anything happens to her it will kill me
 
Wow sleepy that is a good idea.

I think shame and fear is a powerful idea. But will it work for this situation idk.

Thread makes me sad I would hate for shit to happen to anyone's mom.
 
I convinced my mom to quit smoking in a weird way
she smoked 1 pack a day and she's been smoking that much for roughly 30 years
I was working in a pub 1 year ago and she hated me coming back home at 4am so I told her I'd have quit working there if she quit smoking
no need to say it was the 100th time I tried to make her quit, but it worked
she has never smoked a cigarette anymore
I think smoking less doesn't help quitting, I think it has to be a sudden change
 
Sorry to hear about your situation, bud.

I saw a commercial about a pill that supposively helps someone quit Smoking, I believe this is it:

Chantix: New stop smoking medication to help you quit - MayoClinic.com

Another friend of mine told me about this.. and it did work with one of my friends. Every time he wanted to smoke, he chugged two glasses of water and somehow that got rid of his craving.

Substitution is a great opportunity if the person can stick to it..

I hope I helped bud, and God bless you and your family through this situation. (if your not religious, "good luck")
 
I'm really sorry to hear about that Aden, my mom used to smoke too.

I know this is difficult but it is and always will be a willpower thing and an environment thing.
I quit smoking cold-turkey almost four years ago. At the time I was smoking about 2 packs a day, I had currently started dating my current girlfriend and she hates smoke. I quit and stopped going to places where others smoke.
I had smoked up until that moment for about 8-9 years since I was about 14. ( I had move to europe back then and getting cigs is easy for anyone as long as your old enough to put money on the counter. )
So I was hardcore smoker up until meeting my gf. My environment changed and I had something that meant more to me than smoking which was keeping my relationship with my girlfriend.

This is the hardest part of quitting smoking:

Wanting to quit. People who don't stop smoking don't want to quit. They want something magic that is going to make the craving go away and it just doesn't. I still smell it sometimes and I get huge cravings, but I just don't go buy a pack.

I'm not gonna sit up here on a soap box and preach, but help your mom, keep her away from others that smoke for at least the first 2 months while she is trying to quit. If she really wants to quit she will, but if she gives back in to the cravings she just didn't want it bad enough.

Smoking sucks cause it feels good and you don't feel it is doing anything bad to your body, but it slowly does, I can't tell you how different breathing feels now, make her understand that shes not just doing it to herself by not quitting she's also doing to you and the rest of the family by taking away precious moments of future time together with you guys.

Ok I'll stop, I just feel really strongly about this and I hope your mom can pull through the first rough 2-3 weeks of quitting cause it only gets easier after that.

Good Luck I hope she gets better bud.
 
I kinda have a similar problem. My grandpa has been smoking ever since I can remember and he DID stop for many years after my grandma died, but he started up again recently. He gets NASTY coughs and I know it's slowly killing him.

sucks... I thought about sabotaging his cigarettes somehow, but he would hate me for life if I did it. He's not the understanding type...
 
Dude that does suck. My Grandpa died from COPD, but he was also 85 years old. He was diagnosed with it when he was like 50 or so. It progressively got worse and he had to be on oxygen. He was also the "old school" smoker. Only Lucky Strikes for him. I have quit a couple times, it isn't easy. One thing that helped me is quitting coffee and drinking for a while. Those were the 2 things that really made me want to smoke. Also, every time I had the urge to smoke, I chewed gum or had a piece of hard candy. I went through a lot of fucking gum!! Hope these help!!
 
Aden, I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Like someone else already mentioned in this thread, it's all about willpower. You have to WANT to quit. I quit smoking about 3 years ago and went cold turkey. Not becuase of any outside influences... but because I honestly wanted to quit.

You should sit your mom down and really talk to her. Have a heart to heart. Take her out to dinner. Make it special. Explain to her that you love her, and need her, and really really want her to consider quitting. Tell her how important she in your life and you can't stand the thought of losing her. Tell her you'll be there for her and will help her quit in anyway you can. Aden, I have a feeling she will listen to you.
 
That sucks - the smoking addiction is so powerful.

I heard about this book some time ago. I normally wouldn't recommend it since I have no first hand experience with it, but read the reviews - it's insane. 5 out of 5 stars across 289 reviews! This is the kind of thing that people would only come to bitch about, but it seems to work for soooo many people.

Amazon.com: The Easy Way to Stop Smoking: Join the Millions Who Have Become Nonsmokers Using the Easyway Method: Books: Allen Carr

I hope that she's able to quit soon. I am pretty darn attached to my mom too, so I can imagine how scared you are.

Laura
 
This is from memory: Cravings are the brain's response to anxiety which is in turn the brain's interpretation of the symptoms of nicotine withdrawal.

Observe the anxiety welling up, and laugh at it, or ignore it.

What you could say to your mother is "Have you made your will?", or "What music would you like played at your funeral?" in a matter-of-fact way, nice and quiet. Might shock her out of it. Have a mock tombstone made up. It would be great if you had a doctor who could sit her down and lay out the likely consequences of continuing to smoke. Chiding her won't work, just the brutal facts laid out quietly.

A desire like smoking can only be beaten by a more powerful, positive one, or by sheer will-power. If your Ma doesn't have the latter, the desire to remain with her kids might be the stimulus.

It's a great pity death is alien in our trivial culture. It's a great concentrater of the mind.
 
"Willpower" means it's gonna suck really fucking bad...

Here's the easiest way to quit smoking --- get her hooked on nicotine gum.

Most brands are horrible tasting.. but Habitrol is really good after a couple days chewing.

Right away she'll notice ZERO cravings for cigs when she chews the gum. Later she'll start to like the gum, then crave it -- it's just as addicting, but as far as I know, no one has had any terrible health conditions from nic gum.

Tell her about the pluses to nicotine gum: You can chew anywhere, going to the movies is more fun cuz you dont have cravings through the whole thing, you can go to any restaurant and sit in the cleaner sections...
 
I'm sorry, Aden. I just lost my mom two days ago, so I feel a bit emotional about your problem.

As a non-smoker I don't have specific advice, but a smoker friend I worked with was in a similar situation. She had lung failure and finally died awaiting a lung transplant. My friend wasn't able to quit for years, even though she had chronic bronchitis and pneumonia. Once the doctors made it clear that she had a choice: quit or die, she quit, but by that time, it was too late.

I would sit your mother down and say the line in the sand has been drawn. Quit or die. She either stops, or she dies. But she's the one that has to live with temptation, and nobody can muster the will power to quit for her. She has to take control of her own destiny. It's something she has to do herself.
 
I feel for you man. I've been where you are right now. I had to go over to my Mom's place when she could not breathe and we had to call the ambulance. She has COPD mixed with allergies/bad sinus. She was a heavy smoker for, sheesh, has to be like 20 years.

It took her taking that ride in the ambulance and not being able to breathe to go cold turkey. She hasn't smoked since. She still has to take breathing treatments, was on oxygen for a while, and can't do any sort of strenuous ANYthing.

It's really going to take something inside your Mom to click for her to stop, and no amount of yapping at her will work (been there). Hopefully where she is at now helps move her in that direction.
 
My father in law went through the same thing, after he was faced with the facts A: quit smoking and live, or B: continue smoking and die. He chose to live and dropped the smokes after smoking for like 40 years. Hes been smoke free for almost four years now and has no desire to go back.
 
I smoked for 15 years and have been completely smoke free for over a year now, without a single craving or desire to ever become a smoker again.

How did I do it?

1. I had the extreme desire to quit smoking. (new baby and wife that has never smoked)

2. I used a self hypnosis program by Mar.sh.all Sy.lever

you can download the 2 tracks for free Here

How to use the hypnosis program:


NOTE: IT WON'T WORK IF YOU JUST POP IT IN AND START TRYING TO PROVE IT DOESN'T WORK ASSHOLE.

There's a 3-step process to pulling it off using these audios.

1. Decide on a quit day (minimum 10 days out)

2. WRITE DOWN at LEAST 10 reasons why you WANT to quit smoking.

3. Keep that list on your mind.

4. Every time you feel like smoking and don't, give yourself a point.

5. Try to keep track of points. Cheat if you want to make your number seem bigger (this is so stupid but I bet you'll do it and it will help!)

6. On your quit day, go through your day as usual and at the end of the day listen to the tracks I listed for download.

It was magical the way my mind took over my body and flushed out all the habits of smoking as they popped up.

There's a keyword you'll be given in the self hypnosis. I won't say what that word is here, but if you're a smoker who wants to quit... this could change your life forever.



Sorry for the book... but as an ex-slave to nicotine, I feel it's my duty to offer the solution that worked for me if help has been asked.


Good luck, and remember - we were ALL born NON-SMOKERS!
 
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