I need you WF brethren. I'm a lost man.

Sorry to hear about your divorce.

Only one little story comes to my mind:

I once met a plumber in his very late 40s who got divorced like 2 years before our conversation. His wife decided to go back to Wales (from England). He didn't want to so she divorced him.

First months were horrible as he was really attached to her. After a while however he met a woman from Mauritius. She was like 15 years younger than his ex-wife. He went to Mauritius, spent some lovely time there (he didn't travel much in his life before). Few months later he met a girl from Thailand (not a trophy hunter). She sponsored his trip to Thailand, they had some lovely time. Then he met another lovely woman from England. On his trips he met new people, he suddenly started to have time for old friends and so forth. He traveled even more as he now had friends in different countries. He posts pictures to Facebook - his ex-wife is frustrated being stuck in cold Wales while the hubby she dumped is having time of his life. His problems are where to go and which girl he wants to spend his life with.

You may have hard time now but good times will come. Guaranteed.

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microphone head said:
You know what Voshko - you're correct. OP - Ignore everything else in this thread - this chap has nailed it. Forget anything I said about my personal experience. Forget everything everyone else has said about their own experience. In fact, you can start ignoring every single answer to a question about anything - IM, SEO, Traffic, Design, Development & Marketing if it's written by something with experience.

Go with Voshko's bullion input instead. ;)
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That's exactly what I said. Thank you for putting it so perfectly.
 
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Talking of Louis CK - I've been watching Parks & Recreation recently - halfway through second series atm. Fuckin' excellent - funny as fuck.
 
So I have some experience here. Oye, do I have experience!

There is really only One question: Is she the love of your life? If she is, don't lose her... you'll always regret it. Always.

Hope that helps - but I doubt it will.

GL
 
was in a similar situation about 18months ago... 'Effortless Evolution' by Jamie Smart was a great read and helped me to get a fresh perspective on things... give it a try!
 
Another thing you could do is get a dog or two. They're great. They don't lie, cheat, steal, deceive, take advantage, control, mind fuck, talk back, or any of that nasty stuff. They just love you (and food), and always will.

Kinda like that one saying. Shove your wife and dog in the trunk of a car, and drive over a bumpy road for an hour. Then open the trunk, and watch which one is happy to see you again.
 
Fact: Men are far more likely to cheat than women, and for different reasons.

A man could cheat even if he's totally satisfied with the relationship, loves his wife. great sex, etc. Wife fatigue, boredom, desire for variety, midlife crisis, etc. are common reasons why many men cheat.

Women tend to cheat when they're dissatisfied with the relationship. Women usually try to explain their discontent to men, but guys don't like these kinds of discussions and tend to tune out.

OP, I don't know much about your particular situation. This thread is tl;dr. Maybe you'll see yourselves somewhere in this article.

Why Women Cheat
 
JakeStratham said:
Here is what I would do. (Disclaimer: I have never gone through the experience you're going through. So, take my thoughts with a grain of salt.)

- Cut off as much contact with her as possible. Once the divorce is final, cut it off completely. No calls, no emails, no texts. Be ruthless about it.

- Talk to your close friends and family. Hang out. Enjoy their company. Don't allow them to dwell on your "situation."

- Identify a few things you find to be personally rewarding. This could be songwriting, playing with your dog, or going hunting with your buddies. Do those things.

- Never consider reconciliation.

- Never consider talking to your spouse for the purpose of "closure."

- Never consider "hearing her side."

- Spend 60 seconds being absolutely clear with her regarding the above.

I would never presume that you share the same perspective as I about this type of thing. Thus, the above is not advice. It is merely what I would do.
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REAL MAN TALK SON.
 
Voshko said:
Things WF is great at giving advice on:

  • Driving traffic to your website
  • Monetizing web campaigns
  • Flipping a Website
  • Affiliate Marketing
Things WF is not so great at giving advice on:

  • Severe depression
  • Marital/spousal catastrophes
  • Serious life crises for which you should seek professional help
But... if you really got nowhere else to turn I feel for you-- so, here's some short advice since I don't feel like giving you the ol' psyche eval:

Don't do anything major until you settle down from this.
Don't move.
Don't get in a new relationship.
Don't change your profession.
Don't do anything fucking crazy because you're emotional and you want to escape your feelings.
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BlueYonder said:
Fact: Men are far more likely to cheat than women, and for different reasons.

A man could cheat even if he's totally satisfied with the relationship, loves his wife. great sex, etc. Wife fatigue, boredom, desire for variety, midlife crisis, etc. are common reasons why many men cheat.

Women tend to cheat when they're dissatisfied with the relationship. Women usually try to explain their discontent to men, but guys don't like these kinds of discussions and tend to tune out.

OP, I don't know much about your particular situation. This thread is tl;dr. Maybe you'll see yourselves somewhere in this article.

Why Women Cheat
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This may have been true a few years ago, but I honestly think that the scale has been tipping in the other direction for some time.

It's been my personal experience and observation that younger women (<30), married or not, are almost always looking to trade up and cheat accordingly. Doesn't really matter who you are, how much money you have, or anything else. For 99% of women, the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side.
 
BlueYonder said:
A man could cheat even if he's totally satisfied with the relationship, loves his wife. great sex, etc. Wife fatigue, boredom, desire for variety, midlife crisis, etc. are common reasons why many men cheat.
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You are not satisfied with your relationship if you're tired of your wife. You are not satisfied with your relationship is you are bored in it. Men cheat because relationship doesn't fulfill their needs.

I've got an impression that "perfect relationship" has been defined only from females perspective and does not really reflects men nature.
 
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