Going to be a father
- Thread starter danke
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this should be an important lesson to you all... do not blow a load into the pussy... blow it into the condom please.
The only people that I've told so far was the partner of a business I'm a silent partner in across the country (with no common friends of family) and WF...
I've yet to decide when I'm going to tell my parents, who already have grandchildren, or my brother who has kids... I think I'm going to wait until around months 3-5 and she's clearly showing though...
and Tavin... what's a payday? I'm not sure I'm familiar.
I am planning on buying a bigger house this summer though (as the fiancee already has a kid from a previous marriage)... Man how life changes...
I've yet to decide when I'm going to tell my parents, who already have grandchildren, or my brother who has kids... I think I'm going to wait until around months 3-5 and she's clearly showing though...
and Tavin... what's a payday? I'm not sure I'm familiar.
I am planning on buying a bigger house this summer though (as the fiancee already has a kid from a previous marriage)... Man how life changes...
I wouldn't wait that long. If you want to make sure she does not lose it wait till week 12. Some women do not show until 6 months in.
Update:
I'm pretty much have been mind-raped for the past few days...
First off.... She ended up getting her period... It just came late, super hard, and super heavy... So... Thankfully (and you'll see why...) I'm not going to be a father yet.
The, now, ex-fiancee ended up to have been hiding quite a bit from me that came out over the last few weeks and finally to an end last weekend.
1. She was a paranoid schizophrenic and her symptoms started to manifest as she ran out of medication while spending last month at my house.
Some of this things I had to explain myself out of: How the mirrors are not two way mirrors, how I can't remotely hack cell phones, that there are no microphones in the ceiling fans, that I'm not cheating on her whenever I leave the house, how I'm not responsible for her receiving spam from adult friend finder.
2. She wasn't using her real name... Not really TOO big of a deal, but if that's your middle name you should tell someone without them having to look at your driver's license.
3. She actually just got out of bankruptcy (now... keep in mind we've discussed finances before and she DID say she was debt free... Didn't say like that though...), I actually found out from a third party.
4. She currently has JOINT custody of her eight year old and was in a LONG legal battle for primary guardianship. Even though we were considering staying at a place she has in the Dominican Republic (which is umm... kidnapping?!).
5. She's been lying to me about her age... How old did she say she is? 32. How old does the yoga instructor look? 35-40 in the face...
How old is she really? 42
I ended up having to end it and tried to do so amicably. I couldn't deal with her irrational trust issues and my REAL trust issues so she packed up her clothes and left yesterday morning.... No good bye, no nothing.
Now I'm sitting here asking myself, "what the hell just happened?"
I fell in love with half truths, an amazing smile, and the most amazing sex I've EVER had in my life (she's a nymphomaniac).
Just to make shit even more complicated my first fiancee (of six years... yeah... six years... don't ask) who I haven't had communication with in the past year just happened to show up at my door (and she lives over 60 miles away) while the ex and I were arguing about if I tapped her phone while she was in yoga... Crying and saying she's thought of me everyday and would pick up the phone just tempted to call... that she will do anything to be with me...
So now... I'm no longer physically interested my first financee who's preaching her undying love for me while the last one who I couldn't trust or apparently be trusted by left me in a stupor.
If there was a way I can mix one's brain with the other's body it would be such an easy decision...
So now I have a decision to make... Get a place in River North Chicago and try it over with the first fiancee (which I'm 50% willing to do, she's coming over tonight to talk about everything and I'll see how I feel then) or just go up alone and come back down to snow bird when it gets cold.
I'm pretty much have been mind-raped for the past few days...
First off.... She ended up getting her period... It just came late, super hard, and super heavy... So... Thankfully (and you'll see why...) I'm not going to be a father yet.
The, now, ex-fiancee ended up to have been hiding quite a bit from me that came out over the last few weeks and finally to an end last weekend.
1. She was a paranoid schizophrenic and her symptoms started to manifest as she ran out of medication while spending last month at my house.
Some of this things I had to explain myself out of: How the mirrors are not two way mirrors, how I can't remotely hack cell phones, that there are no microphones in the ceiling fans, that I'm not cheating on her whenever I leave the house, how I'm not responsible for her receiving spam from adult friend finder.
2. She wasn't using her real name... Not really TOO big of a deal, but if that's your middle name you should tell someone without them having to look at your driver's license.
3. She actually just got out of bankruptcy (now... keep in mind we've discussed finances before and she DID say she was debt free... Didn't say like that though...), I actually found out from a third party.
4. She currently has JOINT custody of her eight year old and was in a LONG legal battle for primary guardianship. Even though we were considering staying at a place she has in the Dominican Republic (which is umm... kidnapping?!).
5. She's been lying to me about her age... How old did she say she is? 32. How old does the yoga instructor look? 35-40 in the face...
How old is she really? 42
I ended up having to end it and tried to do so amicably. I couldn't deal with her irrational trust issues and my REAL trust issues so she packed up her clothes and left yesterday morning.... No good bye, no nothing.
Now I'm sitting here asking myself, "what the hell just happened?"
I fell in love with half truths, an amazing smile, and the most amazing sex I've EVER had in my life (she's a nymphomaniac).
Just to make shit even more complicated my first fiancee (of six years... yeah... six years... don't ask) who I haven't had communication with in the past year just happened to show up at my door (and she lives over 60 miles away) while the ex and I were arguing about if I tapped her phone while she was in yoga... Crying and saying she's thought of me everyday and would pick up the phone just tempted to call... that she will do anything to be with me...
So now... I'm no longer physically interested my first financee who's preaching her undying love for me while the last one who I couldn't trust or apparently be trusted by left me in a stupor.
If there was a way I can mix one's brain with the other's body it would be such an easy decision...
So now I have a decision to make... Get a place in River North Chicago and try it over with the first fiancee (which I'm 50% willing to do, she's coming over tonight to talk about everything and I'll see how I feel then) or just go up alone and come back down to snow bird when it gets cold.
Take some time to yourself!
Not being a dick but if you got engaged to someone and didn't know their full name, their real date of birth, and couldn't even sniff anything was bat shit crazy about her because you were too worried about getting in the pussy you really need to re-evaluate what you are looking to get out of a relationship.
If you gain some reading comprehension skills you would be able to infer that she's obviously been lying to EVERYONE about her name and real date of birth... I met her through close mutual friends since we're in the same circle. Not to mention I already said I've been engaged for six years before so obviously it's not all about sex.
You're not being a dick, you're being a douche.
As for recognizing a mental disorder... A schizo on medication and a schizo off of it are TWO ENTIRELY different people.
I'm not being a douche. You're obviously in a bad place right now so I won't beat a dead horse, but one day you'll look back and agree that even without meds you can sense something is off with schizo's.
Regarding this:
You admit you aren't physically attracted to the chick but you are considering giving it a go. Again I say, take some time to yourself. Have dinner with her, fuck her, then send her on her way. Chitown is a great place, you'll have a blast and make tons of connections; but do so on your own for at least 6 months.
Hell yeah, when I was 8 I uttered "dad", my father tapped me on head and said to me that I will always be his little special guy. Proudest moment ever.
In all seriousness you're lucky you found everything out now. You were probably days away from waking up to her chaining you to the bed and cutting your balls off due to your cell phone hacking abilities.
Bookmarking this thread so that the next time somebody tells me that marriage is forever and that after knowing somebody for a couple years you know that person is absolutely for you I will simply shake my head and direct them here.
Any updates on this? ^^ I'm really curious how this turns out - what you decide in regards to your first fiancee, etc.. best of luck anyway!
Was this all a joke or real?
Anyway in 2012, the only reason for a marriage certificate is for religious reasons or if her family is rich.
Damn bitch was 42? Good Gawd....and she already had 1 kid?.......next
Anyway in 2012, the only reason for a marriage certificate is for religious reasons or if her family is rich.
Damn bitch was 42? Good Gawd....and she already had 1 kid?.......next