Existential Sigh

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PhillipMarlow

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So I went to a wedding this past weekend in Austin at a beautiful four star country club for the son of my dad's best friend who was also a childhood friend of mine. It was a great time...I got to see a lot of real love being expressed...you could see it in the bride and groom when they danced, when the groom's father played guitar and sang during the ceremony, etc. Really cool stuff.

During the reception, I saw several people who I hadn't seen since I was a freshman in college and met many of their friends. Here's the part that's getting me...9 out of 10 of these folks were graduating med school or lawyers or working on their MBA. They were all attractive, intelligent and on a clearly defined path to financial and professional success. I kinda came away from the whole thing feeling like I missed some sort of memo somewhere down the line...
 


If you get to wake up and do what you love every day, and have fun doing it, then you got the memo.

If you can't do any of that, consider this your memo...
 
Don't compare yourself to them. What you don't know is that they're heavily in debt, are chronic masturbators and have nightly circle jerks because they study 18 hours a day.
 
Don't compare yourself to them. What you don't know is that they're heavily in debt, are chronic masturbators and have nightly circle jerks because they study 18 hours a day.


I agree with the heavily in debt part...


But seriously, there is no reason for you to feel like you've missed out unless you're actually missing out and aren't happy with what you're currently doing.

My guess is that you are slightly unsure of where you are currently at, seeing that you did make this thread comparing yourself to straight edge college grads on a forum full of tit thirsty gay affiliates.



Only you can know what's truly right for you.
If you want to go back to school, go ahead, but nothings guaranteed once you graduate along with the 1,000's of other people holding the same piece of paper you do.
 
So I went to a wedding this past weekend in Austin at a beautiful four star country club for the son of my dad's best friend who was also a childhood friend of mine. It was a great time...I got to see a lot of real love being expressed...you could see it in the bride and groom when they danced, when the groom's father played guitar and sang during the ceremony, etc. Really cool stuff.

During the reception, I saw several people who I hadn't seen since I was a freshman in college and met many of their friends. Here's the part that's getting me...9 out of 10 of these folks were graduating med school or lawyers or working on their MBA. They were all attractive, intelligent and on a clearly defined path to financial and professional success. I kinda came away from the whole thing feeling like I missed some sort of memo somewhere down the line...

Hey,
First of all, acknowledge your feelings - they aren't good or bad, they just ARE. If you were raised in a certain social setting, you've been indoctrinated to believe that certain professions, certain schools, certain country clubs make you a better person or worth more - it's true they do!!

Haha, just kidding. But in all seriousness, have you heard of "being the victim of low expectations"? Well perhaps you are the "victim of high expectations"...

Alot of people don't understand that every living soul in this world is born into some form of lack....

Perhaps the person from a poor background grew up not feeling like he or she was good enough because they didn't have the best cars, clothes, shoes, etc.

What they didn't know is that the person from the well off background also experienced lack. Perhaps not materially, but with regard to the lack of un-conditional love and acceptance.


I'm going to go out on a limb here. Yes, it may feel good for those people at the party who have the prestigious degrees and work for the prestigious companies- BUT THAT'S SUCH A LITTLE PART OF LIFE.

All the money and social status in the world have little to do with matters of the spirit that feed the soul and make you truly feel satisfied.

Hey, if you want to fit into that social circle, then fine - get a degree! But do it for the love of the knowledge and not because you feel less than.

You are an original because god never repeats himself.....

There's something you can do that no one else in the world can do.....

When it comes to being you, you are 1 in 6.6 BILLION.

Seriously dude, you have to say this and believe it. Yes prestige feels good to some people. We are all driven by that vice in some way - we're all insecure.....

For some, getting the car works....

For others, getting the drop dead gorgeous wife (or if you are a woman, husband) works....

For others it's the country club or degree or prestigious firm. The first thing I'd do is acknowledge your feelings and don't lie to yourself about it. If you decide to go for the high flying degree, do it for the right reasons.

Lastly though remember that the "right education" gets your a prestigious job; but, "self education" can get you the life you've always dreamed of....
 
Oh, ps, here's a great piece of wisdom from a wise old lady:
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -
-- Eleanor Roosevelt

Repeat it ceaselessly until it seeps down into your subconscious and becomes a permanent part of your consciousness....

You are a child of the infinite.....

Born to conquer....

and no one can make you feel inferior OR insecure without your acquiescence.
 
C'mon Spencer. You're forgetting the most important thing....you could double leg these pretty, doctor mofos and break their arm before they could even scream. BJJ for the win! :D

But on a serious note, I'm guessing you're feeling this way because you probably haven't quite hit major success in aff marketing yet?

Stick with it.

In a few years you'll be making thousands of dollars and sipping Margaritas while they struggle to pay off their 10 years of college. That should make you feel better.
 
C'mon Spencer. You're forgetting the most important thing....you could double leg these pretty, doctor mofos and break their arm before they could even scream. BJJ for the win! :D

But on a serious note, I'm guessing you're feeling this way because you probably haven't quite hit major success in aff marketing yet?

Stick with it.

In a few years you'll be making thousands of dollars and sipping Margaritas while they struggle to pay off their 10 years of college. That should make you feel better.

...It ain't all about money bro, that's what he's trying to get you to understand (if you read between the lines).

Money (esp. new money) doesn't mean shit it certain communities. I'm sure he was probably brought up with a certain set of expectations placed upon him and depending on what kind of folks he has, he could say "Dad I made $5 million a year in Internet Marketing!!" and they would still be like "um, that's nice...but when are you going to go to grad school or get a job with a REAL company so I can tell my golf buddies about it...".

You know life can be very complex.....
We human beings are creatures of our environment and it takes alot to break free and to live by your own rules....
 
I'll never be able to understand that.

Dad and his buddies can go fuck themselves while I polish my yacht.
 
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I know many doctors and lawyers that work 80 hrs just to make 300k a year. Fuck that and they have no time to spend with family and friends. I like my own hours and make hell of alot more money Dont ever be a "slave to the man" Work your ass off in this business for a few years and you could retire if you want or become multi millionaire travel the world this business is totally virtual you can do it anywhere in the world as long as you have internet. Hell right now im taking a shit and working who gets to say they can do that at there job!
 
OP, No one but yourself can tell you what's best for you, EVEN if you spent 10 years telling us what you think is missing from you life, it wouldn't matter. For every conscious factor that you tell us, there's thousands of unconscious ones that you wouldn't even be able to describe to us.

I'm assuming a lot here, but it sounds to me like you need to discover yourself, and more importantly what you want to become. It's a good thing you got this wake up call now, use your emotions whether negative or positive to produce a positive outcome.

If your current path is leading you to have epiphanies at weddings, it's time to re-evaluate what you want from life. Oh, and another thing, make the grass greener on your side of the fence, none of this comparison bullshit.
 
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