Not really sure what you're asking. If you're asking how long I've studied personal development, the answer is: the majority of my adult life. So, many years.
Alright, be honest. Who's legitimately happy?
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Not really sure what you're asking. If you're asking how long I've studied personal development, the answer is: the majority of my adult life. So, many years.
Last time I found myself in an existential crisis, I sought professional help.
http://www.wickedfire.com/shooting-shit/160631-got-depression.html
http://www.wickedfire.com/shooting-shit/160631-got-depression.html
Yeah, somewhat agreed. I'm the type will who probably never stop working. And if I ever get to the point where money will never again be an object in my personal life, then I'll probably do what many rich people do, and busy myself with philanthropy or something.
For example though, back in Vancouver would visit some friends or family, and probably majority of discussions centered around everyone's new projects, plans, the stresses and problems they bring, etc. For me at least, this creates a general uneasiness in society, which can be draining. Especially in our line of work (self-employed, decent coin, entrepreneurial, etc.), lots of people eye you up as someone who can help them, which can be even more draining.
Nobody is ever content though, because they all have one more thing / project they need to complete. Whether that's toning their abs, or launching a successful business, or selling their house, or whatever. Then once done, they start their next project. If they don't have one, they just make one up, even if they don't know why. Like you said, "maybe I need more short-term goals". Why?
In contrast, here's it's quite different, since it's a Buddhist society so things like greed will get you shunned by society. People are happy though. Everyone from the lady who runs the small neighborhood convenience store, the IT engineer, the commercial baker, the local mafia, etc. They just do their thing everyday, and are somehow totally content with it all, without worrying about bettering themselves.
Granted, that is somewhat a bad mindset to have, and it wants to make me put my head through a wall every once in a while. However, for me at least, I find it provides a nice balance. Up here in my office I have my to-do lists, whiteboard, projects & plans, people hitting me up from all angles for this & that, coming at me with new ideas, etc.
However, I simply go downstairs, and it's a totally different world. Hang out and chat up whoever's down there, have a drink, maybe go hang out with some of the neighbors on the street over a couple beer, go out with some friends for dinner or to a club, etc. Nobody is ever worried or stressed about the future, and everyone is just enjoying the fact that they're breathing.
I don't know, to each their own, but I find it provides a nice balance for myself personally. Irritates the hell out of me at times, but I also realize that's what keeps my soul calm, so I don't fret about it much.
From reading many of these posts one thing I know I'm definitely lacking is the social aspect. I'm just a lonely motherfucker at this point in my life. I can't wait to start working out at a real gym and begin a super healthy diet. I definitely need to make some new friends as well.
:yin-yang:
However, I simply go downstairs, and it's a totally different world. Hang out and chat up whoever's down there, have a drink, maybe go hang out with some of the neighbors on the street over a couple beer, go out with some friends for dinner or to a club, etc. Nobody is ever worried or stressed about the future, and everyone is just enjoying the fact that they're breathing.
I don't know, to each their own, but I find it provides a nice balance for myself personally. Irritates the hell out of me at times, but I also realize that's what keeps my soul calm, so I don't fret about it much.
That sounds so awesome. Relocation has been my top priority as of late. Really need to get back to place that has sunlight and nice people where I can go for a walk or go to a random place and hangout. Also a little marijuana.
Not right now, I am NOT happy. I need to figure out a new business online that interests me. Google has wiped me out for right now.
NICE !
Word to the wise, you need a super great environment to have a loving warm-fuzzy acid trip (or any other kind of trip). You cant be inner-city with yelling neighbors and traffic etc.
Don't do a bunch of drugs you are going to trip out on stress super hard for like 8 hours.
If you're working 12+ hours a day, you're doing it wrong.
But honestly, I do agree with most of this thread. I don't plan on working and focusing on IM as much after 2-3 years. I'll basically be set financially unless something drastic happens.
But right now during this time I have a feeling that I want to achieve more or be doing other things. I know there's nothing else I should be focusing on with my life right now because this will get me out of all the student loan debts I have and get me whatever I want in the future. Then I'll be set. But I would say I was happier 2 years ago than I am at this time.
I'm sure that will change. But the end goal is worth the effort right now. I feel like I'm missing out on my prime years of my youth doing this, but I also am starting to feel disconnected from my friends. They're all moving into their stable relationships and jobs, and I can see how miserable they are. I guess I miss that I will be in a position to enjoy the rest of my life, but I might not have many other close friends to enjoy it with because they are all busy working or being in codependent relationships. Oh well.
But honestly, I do agree with most of this thread. I don't plan on working and focusing on IM as much after 2-3 years. I'll basically be set financially unless something drastic happens.
But right now during this time I have a feeling that I want to achieve more or be doing other things. I know there's nothing else I should be focusing on with my life right now because this will get me out of all the student loan debts I have and get me whatever I want in the future. Then I'll be set. But I would say I was happier 2 years ago than I am at this time.
I'm sure that will change. But the end goal is worth the effort right now. I feel like I'm missing out on my prime years of my youth doing this, but I also am starting to feel disconnected from my friends. They're all moving into their stable relationships and jobs, and I can see how miserable they are. I guess I miss that I will be in a position to enjoy the rest of my life, but I might not have many other close friends to enjoy it with because they are all busy working or being in codependent relationships. Oh well.
Hey bro,
You're not alone. Some of us needs to fight in the jungle and can't live in the zoo. Your mentor is right, that feeling is not new. I'll strongly recommend you to read this great book Freedom or Death [ame="http://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Death-Nikos-Kazantzakis/dp/057117857X"]Freedom or Death[/ame] by greek author Kazanzakis. It deals with exactly those themes of happines, family, glory, freedom and fighting. There are several characters you may associate with partially and fully.
It is, ironically, one of those 'what does it mean to be a man' books that they completely removed from the modern curriculum. It's a classic, read it and grow wiser hopefully. It's one of those books which meaning to you will probably change drastically as you age.
The lack of a philosophy, and the pursuit of personal achievement is not a problem you can lay at the feet of technology, society, government or culture.
It's each individual's responsibility to find a raison d'être (reason to be) in this world. 100s of thousands of people do it successfully every day.
Successful people take responsibility for changing their world.
It's each individual's responsibility to find a raison d'être (reason to be) in this world. 100s of thousands of people do it successfully every day.
Successful people take responsibility for changing their world.
I don't know you so don't take any of this too serious.
You seem to have no idea what you actually want to do with your life. And you're afraid that if you don't figure it out quickly - it might be too late. Let's face it, it takes a long time to build up a good professional career and a businessman who is perma-broke is not really in business.
I don't buy into the "we're awesome and that is why there's no place for us in this world which is making us fucking depressed and pathetic" crap.
It's more like "you are not really all that awesome and have chosen a really difficult path in life. Good luck. A few of you will make it while the rest are going to spend the next 10 or so years grinding 12 hours/day wondering wtf is going to happen once you turn 35-40-whatever".
Having no social life and spending 12 hour days in front of your pc doesn't make you awesome (well there are probably a few members here who are truly awesome geeks, but that's it lol). It doesn't make you a hard working businessman, either.
Take some time off and figure out what you want to do with your life man.
/Obviously everyone on WF is awesome and none of this applies to anyone here.
Only one one of our services - the press releases. The good news is that the margin is terrible on selling that in BST - it's actually more profitable to spend $50 in AdWords to get 1 sale than it is to get 1 from the BST.
No shock, though. Everything else is going well...we're growing at >100% a month right now which has been challenging to manage.
I don't know you so don't take any of this too serious.
You seem to have no idea what you actually want to do with your life. And you're afraid that if you don't figure it out quickly - it might be too late. Let's face it, it takes a long time to build up a good professional career and a businessman who is perma-broke is not really in business.
I don't buy into the "we're awesome and that is why there's no place for us in this world which is making us fucking depressed and pathetic" crap.
It's more like "you are not really all that awesome and have chosen a really difficult path in life. Good luck. A few of you will make it while the rest are going to spend the next 10 or so years grinding 12 hours/day wondering wtf is going to happen once you turn 35-40-whatever".
Having no social life and spending 12 hour days in front of your pc doesn't make you awesome (well there are probably a few members here who are truly awesome geeks, but that's it lol). It doesn't make you a hard working businessman, either.
Take some time off and figure out what you want to do with your life man.
/Obviously everyone on WF is awesome and none of this applies to anyone here.
I took some time off after high school (10 years) to figure out what I wanted to do with my life, and now I'm doing it. I initially came here to go into medicine to become a pediatrician (in b4 pedobear jokes) but realized after I got into my backup/pre-med degree (pharmacy) that I very much like community pharmacy, and it pairs up much better with my entrepreneurial background and skillset. Thus changing my envisioned future but at the same time saving myself an additional 4 years of school and $100,000 in tuition.
So... yeah, thank you for the insight but I think I won't be stopping to take more time off to come to the same conclusion.