Ditto to both.
There is so much going on here, it can be hard to keep up. But if you can visit often and read as much as possible, you should start to get some unique ideas on your own.
Mike's links are undoubtedly the best place to start. But don't get too bogged down trying to follow techniques step by step. Use those ideas to help you come up with your own. That's working for me.
Mike. Make your sig not suck. The dancing is kinda freakin' me out!